You have got to find your Passion!

I had a conversation with somebody, somewhere many years ago, infact i can’t quite remember if it was a somebody or just something I read or overheard. “To be truly happy in life you have got to find your passion”.

I have spent many years searching for just that. I mean, did I have a passion for anything, a talent, even a hobby? Yes, I went through phases of wanting to be this and that – unfortunately, I am not blessed with the virtue of patience which meant I quickly got bored or I burnt out and gave up on most things, but did I have a true passion – something I couldn’t give up on no matter what? I have wanted to be a chef, teacher, entrepreneur, solicitor, therapist and even a hairdresser! I have studied in many different areas and had many different jobs but nothing provided me with that spark.

I gave birth to my first daughter at the tender age of 19 and my second not long after, just shy of my 21st birthday. When my peers were off at college, travelling the world or on the first rung of the ladder of their chosen careers I was dealing with stretch marks, dirty nappies, sleepless nights and working in positions I really couldn’t stand just to “pay the bills” while my daughters were growing up with babysitters.

I was offered a great job at the end of 2012, a dream job to some, with an american company and great prospects. I was travelling to London and the US – places I could never have dreamt of visiting. I didn’t know what to think when I found out I was expecting my third child last July. I felt indifferent about it to say the least. After all I had given up my youth to rear my two elder daughters and it wasn’t easy as a single mother you know! I was finally getting my life back, I was finally able to concentrate on me, on finding my passion! It was my turn to shine, to succeed and to have something for me! (Obviously after the initial selfish thoughts we were both delighted) This was going to be my partners first child which was very exciting, even more so when we found out we were having another girl.

I had mentally put my search for my passion on hold, resigning myself to the fact that I was going to be starting all over again. As the pressures of work lifted and I spent more quality time at home with my daughters I realised that they were growing up so fast and soon they would leave the nest to start their own lives. I started to embrace being at home with them, we cooked together, we watched movies, had proper conversations – I got to know them both – our bond strengthened and I saw how beautiful they both truly are inside and out.

Rebecca Mae was born on the 8th March 2014 and I was; and continue to be so consumed with love for her that I find it hard to breathe, just as I am for my elder daughters. Having a newborn in the house has completed our family, tied us all together and made us appreciate each other. The biggest realisation I have had is that I did have a passion, a talent and that one thing I would never give up on. I found it 14 years ago when my first wonderful daugther was born. I am already a chef, teacher, entrepreneur, solicitor, therapist and even a hairdresser, because I am a MUM. This is what I was born to do, this is where I am happy and truly shine. These three girls ARE my life’s achievement and I couldn’t be more proud of them all. I will no longer have to search for fulfillment because I have had it here all along. While my peers were off finding their passions I already had mine – it has just taken a while to realise it.

Spend time with your children, get to know them. I know only too well how difficult that can be when you are arguing with a teenager because she wants to wear makeup or won’t clean her room or when you are changing your tenth nappy of the day and stink of baby sick but they grow up too fast and soon they won’t want to hold our hands or give us a cuddle.

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Mama’s and Papa’s Bathing Set

Mama's and Papa's Bathing Set

We bought this cute bathing set from Argos when Rebecca was born. It was the only bath we found for a reasonable price that came with the added extras – nice soft baby towel, a thermometer, a sponge and a top and tail bowel.
Although I rarely use the top and tail bowel it was a handy addition for storing cotton balls, talc, creams and lotions.
The bath itself is lightweight and comfortable with it’s own handy plug hole which makes emptying the bathwater easy.
My only negative with this is that the sponge provided feels very rough against the skin so we use a softer one for the moment.
All in all a great product and didn’t break the bank either – €43.99

Night Routine – Is it too early? Never!

So I decided that this time around I would create a bedtime routine with my daughter as early as possible.  My other two daughters didn’t really have much of a routine and ended up in my bed most nights.  I honestly don’t remember when either of them slept through the night for the first time, in fact I imagine neither of them ever actually did. Now I am a little older, a little wiser and thankfully have developed a little more patience I hope this time will be different.

I am not a strict follower of any of the new fangled “parenting types” that I have been reading about: baby led, attachment, parent led…I suppose I would consider myself a mixture of all three.  I like routine and structure but will not bind myself or my daughter to it, I wouldn’t miss a lunch date over a nap schedule for example. I do believe that a bedtime routine is good for a baby though so this is one I will try to stick to every evening.

Now that Rebecca is over four weeks old we have started to give her a bath every night before bedtime. Thankfully she LOVES the bath. We purchased the Mama’s and Papa’s bath set from Argos when she was born – it includes a thermometer, the bath, a towel and a top and tail bowl. You can find my review here https://beingmumblog.wordpress.com/2014/04/24/mamas-and-papas-bathing-set/   Bath We were given a bath seat by a friend which we put inside the bath to allow hands free bathing – aswell as allowing Rebecca to splash and kick it also saves my back!

I don’t have an exact bed time for her yet as her timetable is still so changeable but usually between 9pm and 10pm she will have her bath. When she is finished her bath and dressed in her pyjamas I put on her nightlight and read her a story, you might think this is a ridiculous step in the routine for a six-week old baby but I have added it as I do believe the earlier the better. It is something I regret not doing with my older girls but each to their own and you don’t have to include it! It doesn’t have to be anything major, this is the one that my elder daughters picked for her – it’s short and sweet but colorful and plays sounds which catch her attention. book
After that she has her fifth and final feed of the day – she is following the standard guidelines for bottle fed babies in Ireland which for her age is currently five, five ounce bottles in twenty-four hours. Her night-light plays a bedtime lullaby which I play for her while she settles which never takes long, it is usually about 10.30pm at this stage but this has varied (sometimes she has had her fourth feed at 8pm and then bath at 9pm – her fifth bottle would then be at 1.30am. This meant she had her last bottle of the evening before her bath)

For the past couple of nights she has slept right through until 6am – I don’t know if this will be a permanent thing as she is still so young but I do believe that she has learned the difference between night and day due to this routine and she really enjoys going into her crib for the night! 988.

Milton Soother Steriliser – Review

Milton Soother Steriliser - Review

So I thought I would start with a review of the latest gimmick on the market for new mum, the Milton soother steriliser.
This was a great novelty for the first week or two and is handy for when you are out and about. The design is sleek and stylish and you can have blue,pink or a nice neutral green. When I had my daughter six weeks ago it was the first thing I went to look for. It was sold out of almost every local shop and chemist which made me want it even more…that must mean it is a fantastic invention that I couldn’t live without..right? – WRONG.
Like most mums I sterilise all our soother in the steam steriliser while I am doing the bottles, this sterilises them for 24 hours. All the soothers we bought came with their own handy plastic tub for storage. I didn’t think of this at the time but the soothers are perfectly safe for the day without needing this new invention!
It comes with a pack of Milton mini sterilizing tablets which is fine until you lose the tiny packet and go to look to buy them on their own – nowhere in my area stocked just the mini tablets!
The milton soother steriliser quickly became nothing more than a pram decoration.
I had a soother inside for a few days as I had forgotten about it but my daughter opened it yesterday and it had started to grow mould!! YUCK! – It is now a decoration in our kitchen bin along with the soother that was inside. Imagine I hadn’t noticed the mould growth and put it in my baby’s mouth? All in all I think it is a waste of €9.99 but I would love you to share your experience 🙂