Weaning Baby battle with “styles”!

Sorry I have been off the radar for a while…we have had a lot going on. The baby was christened last week and we had a huge party to plan…I also took on the task of making her cake!

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Anyway, back to the topic at hand. I have spent weeks searching online threads and forums regarding weaning. Baba is five months now and after receiving conflicting information from doctor and various PHNs I decided to try and figure it out myself.

When my older girls were babies weaning was recommended from 3 months and it was all about the spoon and baby rice. It was refreshing to see that nowadays parents have many choices when it comes to weaning and I developed and interest in “baby led weaning” basically this means that baby takes the lead, you wait until 6 months and skip spoon feeding and purees completely. Baby is offered foods they can hold and feed themselves. I joined an online group and watched the different posts and opinions for a couple of months. To say I was shocked and horrified by some mothers comments to other mother’s would be an understatement!

Women going online to ask questions and learn were being abused for not “following the rules” of baby led weaning! One woman posted a picture of her little one having a taste of chocolate and the comments that were made to her were just disgusting.  Another woman was concerned that her husband didn’t want to follow baby led and all of the advise basically told her to ignore her husband! I mean, my god, he is the child’s father!!

I decided there and then not to become involved with this group and that I would combine elements from baby led and standard weaning. I was not going to be bullied and forced to feed my child in any one particular way.

So I tried baby with some rice a couple of weeks ago and she had no interest so I decided to wait until six months but a few days ago while I was eating my breakfast she kept trying to eat it!

Bingo! She’s ready 🙂 she had a small bowl of baby rice and didn’t spit or dribble once…the tongue thrust reflex is gone which means she can swallow the food without forcing half of it back out.  I am so glad I waited those extra couple of weeks. It has made all the difference. She will also hold a donut peach and have a good ole suck which is just beautiful to watch.

Combing both concepts is really working for my baby and we are delighted with her progress. I am also delighted that I didn’t give in to the pressure of that group in order to be what they consider a good mother!

My advice to anybody starting to wean their little one is to  read all the information you can gather long before you start weaning and decide what you feel will work for you and your baby. Don’t feel pressured to do anything you are not comfortable with. Once you are following the standard guidelines, experiment and most of all enjoy…it is a wonderful experience watching your baby eating and enjoying food for the first time.

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Seeing yourself for the first time

Today my almost four month little angel reached a milestone, I say it was a milestone because I believe it to be the very beginning of a part of a girls life that can lead her down several paths…the path to self loathing, the path to vanity or hopefully one of confidence and contentment. She recognized herself in the mirror for the first time.

Her reaction was amazing she actually cried and laughed at exactly the same time and seemed frightened yet mesmerized.
I kept pressing her perfect little nose and saying “beep”.

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Eventually she calmed down enough to really enjoy it and I took the time to tell her how beautiful she is inside and out.

Something that I will have to reinforce in her many, many times as she grows up I am sure because even though she is beautiful she will probably never be happy with how she looks and we can thank society for that!

Positive reinforcement and self worth start at home even at four months old. I pray that things will have changed before my baby is old enough to worry about it but sadly I doubt they will.

Some homework for us all:

Never say “diet” always say “healthy eating”.
Don’t ever refer to yourself as being fat around your children.
Instill confidence from an early age.

Sadly behaviours are learned. Children are like sponges they soak everything up!

Remember, the “do as I say, not as I do” mentality just DOES NOT work!

Seeing yourself for the first time

Today my almost four month little angel reached a milestone, I say it was a milestone because I believe it to be the very beginning of a part of a girls life that can lead her down several paths…the path to self loathing, the path to vanity or hopefully one of confidence and contentment. She recognized herself in the mirror for the first time.

Her reaction was amazing she actually cried and laughed at exactly the same time and seemed frightened yet mesmerized.
I kept pressing her perfect little nose and saying “beep”.

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Eventually she calmed down enough to really enjoy it and I took the time to tell her how beautiful she is inside and out.

Something that I will have to reinforce in her many, many times as she grows up I am sure because even though she is beautiful she will probably never be happy with how she looks and we can thank society for that!

Positive reinforcement and self worth start at home even at four months old. I pray that things will have changed before my baby is old enough to worry about it but sadly I doubt they will.

Some homework for us all:

Never say “diet” always say “healthy eating”.
Don’t ever refer to yourself as being fat around your children.
Instill confidence from an early age.

Sadly behaviours are learned. Children are like sponges they soak everything up!

Remember, the “do as I say, not as I do” mentality just DOES NOT work!

Mama’s and Papa’s Bathing Set

Mama's and Papa's Bathing Set

We bought this cute bathing set from Argos when Rebecca was born. It was the only bath we found for a reasonable price that came with the added extras – nice soft baby towel, a thermometer, a sponge and a top and tail bowel.
Although I rarely use the top and tail bowel it was a handy addition for storing cotton balls, talc, creams and lotions.
The bath itself is lightweight and comfortable with it’s own handy plug hole which makes emptying the bathwater easy.
My only negative with this is that the sponge provided feels very rough against the skin so we use a softer one for the moment.
All in all a great product and didn’t break the bank either – €43.99

Night Routine – Is it too early? Never!

So I decided that this time around I would create a bedtime routine with my daughter as early as possible.  My other two daughters didn’t really have much of a routine and ended up in my bed most nights.  I honestly don’t remember when either of them slept through the night for the first time, in fact I imagine neither of them ever actually did. Now I am a little older, a little wiser and thankfully have developed a little more patience I hope this time will be different.

I am not a strict follower of any of the new fangled “parenting types” that I have been reading about: baby led, attachment, parent led…I suppose I would consider myself a mixture of all three.  I like routine and structure but will not bind myself or my daughter to it, I wouldn’t miss a lunch date over a nap schedule for example. I do believe that a bedtime routine is good for a baby though so this is one I will try to stick to every evening.

Now that Rebecca is over four weeks old we have started to give her a bath every night before bedtime. Thankfully she LOVES the bath. We purchased the Mama’s and Papa’s bath set from Argos when she was born – it includes a thermometer, the bath, a towel and a top and tail bowl. You can find my review here https://beingmumblog.wordpress.com/2014/04/24/mamas-and-papas-bathing-set/   Bath We were given a bath seat by a friend which we put inside the bath to allow hands free bathing – aswell as allowing Rebecca to splash and kick it also saves my back!

I don’t have an exact bed time for her yet as her timetable is still so changeable but usually between 9pm and 10pm she will have her bath. When she is finished her bath and dressed in her pyjamas I put on her nightlight and read her a story, you might think this is a ridiculous step in the routine for a six-week old baby but I have added it as I do believe the earlier the better. It is something I regret not doing with my older girls but each to their own and you don’t have to include it! It doesn’t have to be anything major, this is the one that my elder daughters picked for her – it’s short and sweet but colorful and plays sounds which catch her attention. book
After that she has her fifth and final feed of the day – she is following the standard guidelines for bottle fed babies in Ireland which for her age is currently five, five ounce bottles in twenty-four hours. Her night-light plays a bedtime lullaby which I play for her while she settles which never takes long, it is usually about 10.30pm at this stage but this has varied (sometimes she has had her fourth feed at 8pm and then bath at 9pm – her fifth bottle would then be at 1.30am. This meant she had her last bottle of the evening before her bath)

For the past couple of nights she has slept right through until 6am – I don’t know if this will be a permanent thing as she is still so young but I do believe that she has learned the difference between night and day due to this routine and she really enjoys going into her crib for the night! 988.

Milton Soother Steriliser – Review

Milton Soother Steriliser - Review

So I thought I would start with a review of the latest gimmick on the market for new mum, the Milton soother steriliser.
This was a great novelty for the first week or two and is handy for when you are out and about. The design is sleek and stylish and you can have blue,pink or a nice neutral green. When I had my daughter six weeks ago it was the first thing I went to look for. It was sold out of almost every local shop and chemist which made me want it even more…that must mean it is a fantastic invention that I couldn’t live without..right? – WRONG.
Like most mums I sterilise all our soother in the steam steriliser while I am doing the bottles, this sterilises them for 24 hours. All the soothers we bought came with their own handy plastic tub for storage. I didn’t think of this at the time but the soothers are perfectly safe for the day without needing this new invention!
It comes with a pack of Milton mini sterilizing tablets which is fine until you lose the tiny packet and go to look to buy them on their own – nowhere in my area stocked just the mini tablets!
The milton soother steriliser quickly became nothing more than a pram decoration.
I had a soother inside for a few days as I had forgotten about it but my daughter opened it yesterday and it had started to grow mould!! YUCK! – It is now a decoration in our kitchen bin along with the soother that was inside. Imagine I hadn’t noticed the mould growth and put it in my baby’s mouth? All in all I think it is a waste of €9.99 but I would love you to share your experience 🙂